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To romanticise your life is to bring more magic into the mundane, to create motivation and satisfaction from simple pleasures and to bring a new sense of wonder when you’re in a rut.
Romanticise Yourself: Be The Person you Wish to Meet
Many of us want to fit in—without realising that most people yearn for someone to come in, sweep them off their feet, and bring them into a fantasy world. You could be that person for yourself and others.
Do you wish someone would approach you and (respectfully) compliment your outfit? Be that person for someone else. Do you want someone with extraordinary talent to swoop into your life and wow you? Practice your abilities, and create something exceptional.
We don’t experience things by resentfully wishing someone else would do them for us—we experience things by becoming the type of person who would experience them.
To live a movie life – become a character.
Start by asking yourself: How do you want others to see you? Then, take small actions daily to reflect that image. If you want to be seen as creative, create. If you want to be seen as kind, practice kindness.
For more information on the self concept, how to get to know your authentic self and how to work through limiting beliefs – check out my blogpost titled How to Discover Your Authentic Self (heal your self concept).
One great book recommendation for beginners to start shadow work is The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron.
Romanticise The Mundane: Intentionally Waste Your Time
Intentionality is the idea of valuing your time by intentionally wasting it on what truly brings you joy.
Waste time on friends, lighting candles, or cook from scratch. Waste time on your passion projects, waste time daydreaming or wandering around your home town. Allow yourself to be ‘seduced’ by the world around you, by the beauty of nature, people and experiences you can experience right now.
Romantizise your life. You don’t become fulfilled by reaching a finish line. You become fulfilled by making mundane tasks fulfilling right now. Romanticise simple tasks; cook in heels, turn on ambient music whilst studying – pretend that your life is a movie scene, make things aesthetically pleasing. Pick the fancy soap you’ve saved for years because it was expensive.
You make life feel purposeful by making the next hour purposeful, not by waiting for Gandalf to hand you a prophecy when you’re 50.
Intentionality is a form of mindfulness that urges you to slow down, de-stress, and stop multitasking. Every hour, pause, take a breath – and set an intention for the next hour. Not the rest of the day, not the rest of the week – how can you ensure the next hour is meaningful to you? It’s like whispering a spell. Stop before beginning a new task, and set a clear intention on what you’re getting out of it.
Before dinner with family, the intention could be I set the intention to be present and understanding while eating dinner with my family.
Before studying, the intention could be I set the intention to be patient with myself as I study this material.
Before exercise; I set the intention to enjoy the privilige of moving my body and caring for it.
You could even set an intention for scrolling on social media. I intend to give myself reprieve from my thoughts and allow myself to relax.
The point of all of this is not to shame you into hustling – the point is to remind you to be aware of how you spend your time, and urge you to choose spending time on things which truly bring you joy.
Romanticise Striving for Something: Do It for the Plot
Sometimes, you need to throw it down and just do it. Do it for the plot – do something just because it will make a good story. Do it for the plot, for the character development.
If you are lostand need purpose, I suggest you don’t look for that moment when you find your passion and all the stars align.
Begin with something much, much simpler.
Ask yourself the question; how can I make today more interesting?
Not better, not perfect – interesting.
Try a new course, take a new route, speak to a stranger. This is the ‘do it for the plot’ method, where you release expectations that things will become better, you remove that pressure – and instead, focus on doing it for the plot. Doing it because it’s interesting.
It doesn’t have to be dramatic—sometimes the most interesting stories are hidden in the quiet moments: listening to a new song, deep diving into researching an obscure special interest, or sending a risky text.
Final Word
What’s one small action you can take today to romanticize your life or add a twist to your plot? Share it with me in the comments – or mail me directly for questions.
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